How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” One of the biggest ways to put worries to rest, is to focus on what’s happening in the present moment. You cannot worry about the future, or regret the past if you’re focused on the present. Dale Carnegie goes on to say, “One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is taht all of us tend to put off livng. We’re all dreamimg of some magical rose garden over the horizon- instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.

The formula for solving worry situations: 1. Analyze the situation and determine the worst case scenario. 2. After determining the worst case scenario, accept it. 3. From that time on, devote your time and energy to trying to improve upon the worst you’ve already accepted mentally. One of the worst features of worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate. When we worry, our minds jump around, and we lose all power of decision. However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally, we then eliminate all of the vague imaginings and put ourselves in a position in which we’re able to concentrate on our solution. When we’ve accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose…and that automatically means we have everything to gain!

Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Never allow little things to consume your mind. The author also writes that a way to a happier and more care free life is to focus on others. He claims, “You can be cured in 14 days of some sorrows if you follow this prescription: think every single day how you can please someone.” Helping others makes people genuinely happy and fulfilled. Keep in mind…If we’re going to make things better for others, let’s be quick about it. We only pass this way once. Therefore, any kindness that can be done must be done now, without delay.

The importance of prayer to calm our worries according to the writer: prayer helps us put into words exactly what is troubling us. It’s almost impossible to deal with an issue if it remains vague and nebulous. Praying is a lot like writing our thoughts down on paper.  It also gives us a sense of sharing our burdens. Sometimes our troubles are so personal that we don’t feel comfortable sharing them with friends and family members. Also, prayer puts into force an active principle of ‘doing.’ It’s a first step towards action.

How to put the worry of criticism to rest: remember that criticism is often a disguised compliment. “No one ever kicks a dead dog.” Carnegie explains so much in this book…how to prevent worry and fatigue in your work environment, how to banish boredom, how to rid yourself of an inferiority complex, how exercise affects the brain…all of these things play into how we create or handle our troubles. Our mentality has a huge impact on it, so check this book out to learn in detail how to rid your life of unnecessary worrying.


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