The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

“A practical guide to personal freedom.”

The Four Agreements was recommended to me by one of my best friends, Heather. If a person lives their life by these 4 rules, they’ll start to see an amazing transformation within themself that the author says to be, “a dream of heaven.”

The First Agreement: Be impeccable with your words. This sounds simple, but it’s more powerful than we think. With words we manifest everything in our lives. The human mind is like a garden where seeds grow of whatever you choose to plant. The seeds are opinions, ideas, and concepts- and they’re planted with words. “The word is the most powerful tool you have. But like a sword with two edges, your work can create the most beautiful surrounding for you, or it can destroy everything.” Always use your word to spread love, including about yourself. Being conscious of your words can lead you to freedom, success, and abundance; it can take away fear and transform it into joy.

The Second Agreement: Don’t take anything personally. The following statement is so important and really opened my eyes: Taking things personally is the maximum expression of selfishness because it means we are making the assumption that everything is about us. Even when someone tries to directly insult you, realize that it has nothing to do with you, because they speak words based on their reality and their viewpoints, which don’t have anything to do with your reality and truth. A person’s point of view is no one’s truth but their own.

The Third Agreement: Don’t make assumptions. A mistake we all make is assuming everyone sees life the way we do. This is why we have a fear of being ourselves around others; we assume they’ll judge us, criticize us, and dislike the way we are. The way to avoid assumptions is to ask questions and have clear communication. You may find that things aren’t often what you think they are.

The Fourth Agreement: Always do your best. “Your best will always be changing moment to moment. It will be different when you’re healthy as opposed to when you’re sick. Under any circumstance, do your best, and you’ll avoid self-criticism and regret.” Your best is not to be compared to how others do. When you don’t try your best, you’re denying yourself and who you were made to be. You deny your full potential.

The first steps to mastering these agreements are to become aware and then realize it takes time to form the habit of abiding by them. The author suggests writing each agreement down and posting it to your refrigerator or mirror to view them every day 🙂 If we follow them, we will lead a truly beautiful life. Thanks for reading!


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