A huge question I’ve always got on my mind is…how can we accomplish everything we need/want to in life, and also find tranquility? Is this possible? So often (especially in the books I’ve read) the message is to “go big or go home” and “don’t stop until your dream is realized.” I agree with these things, because settling isn’t something that brings us true satisfaction…but how can we create success, raise a family, stay in shape, and then also make time for needed relaxation? Here’s what I’ve come up with…
LESS IS MORE:
Once upon a time up until about 3 weeks go, I tried doing every workout possible. I’m not saying over the course of my life, I’m saying I tried doing it all every week. For example, on Mondays I would go for a run. On Tuesdays & Thursdays I did Tae Kwon Do, Wednesdays were kickboxing, and everywhere in between I’d pull up some different Pilates workout on YouTube. OH, I almost forgot that I have a gym membership too…too much? Yep.
I felt pulled in so many different directions with exercise that I got completely overwhelmed. So, I decided to make a choice (because I got busy with other things), and I needed to be realistic that my trying to do it all was causing burnout. I needed to focus in on what I could realistically do during the week and I came up with running, Tae Kwon Do, and T25. T25 is a DVD you pop in, and requires no extra equipment. It’s 25 minutes each day, and for that reason I could cut out kickboxing- which involved going somewhere at a time that really didn’t work for me anyways.
What I’m saying is… narrow it down to what you really want. Sometimes trying to do it all is counter-productive. Now what I’ve found is the quality of my workouts has been better because I’m not half-assing anything.
Also, this part is really hard for me. But I think it’s sometimes essential to leave the laundry. Leave the dishes. Let the bed sit unmade for one day. If you’ve got a huge priorities list, don’t feel guilty if the house work has to spend some time on the back burner. This actually freaks me out, and I try to not be so hard on myself if I have to run out of the house with the clothes still in the washing machine…but it is OK. And your life will be OK. *cringe*
FIND TIME TO BREATHE (Literally).
This is so easy. When you’re amidst making coffee with little children running around you at 7am that you need to get to a different activity each, and when you return home you have a pile of papers on your desk you need to file before going to the office and……you get the idea. Stop. And. Breathe. Even if it’s for just 2 minutes. Close your eyes, and breathe in and out slowly. This is what I like to call “mini meditation.”
Ok, the above picture is a bit much for what I’m trying to convey here, but you get it. All meditation really is is focusing on your breathing while trying to clear your thoughts. You will be so surprised at the benefits of this activity. Don’t take my word for it, check out the book “10% Happier” by Dan Harris and he’ll give you the low down on those benefits. You will worry a little less, and collect yourself emotionally throughout the day. I don’t even mean ditching everything to go find a waterfall to meditate under, I mean close your eyes while you’re at your kitchen counter holding your grocery list and breathe.
So, is this crazy that I just wrote a blog post that doing less can actually be more?! This is not to be mistaken for condoning laziness…it’s me being an advocate for forgiving yourself, not trying to unrealistically do it all, and taking some time to breathe. 🙂
Thanks for reading!
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